Maybe it’s just me, but I don’t see how sex without a condom can even be an option. Unfortunately, I grew up (and continue to grow) in an era where HIV/AIDS and other STD/STI are gruesome realities. As far as I’m concerned, wearing a rubber is just part of the process. No glove, no love is the philosophy I stand and live by because no piece of ass is worth my life. That’s why it always bugs me out when I hear people say they don’t use condoms in 2009. Aside from the lost souls that just don’t care, it’s actually people in committed relationships I hear sidestepping protection the most.
Now, I won’t even lie and say I never-ever-ever dipped my Chick-O-Stick in the honey jar 4 a few seconds/strokes just to “see what it feels like,” but that was in my dumb days. My thinking was usually either, “Oh, she’s on the pill” or “One or two quick strokes won’t hurt.” Even then, though, the thought of 1 of my little soldiers getting past enemy lines scared me shitless and I quickly ceased and desisted any further progress without my protective helmet firmly in place. After 1 particularly scary “incident,” I left that game of Russian roulette completely alone. Only a fool repeats the same mistake twice, so it’s a condom 4 me 100 % of the time committed relationship or not.
Truth be told, I probably wear a condom even after I’m married. It’s not that I think my future wife might cheat or vice versa, but I don’t want to have sex raw until I’m ready 2 have kids. It might sound weird to some, but I’d like to build a solid foundation 4 my marriage first b4 becoming a parent. Adding on titles of mommy and daddy 2 soon can just make that transition even harder. That’s not to say if my wife got pregnant earlier than we planned I’d be upset or think my marriage was doomed 4 failure, it’s just that I’d like to have a year or 2 enjoying the honeymoon stage 1st. That’s my plan, but who knows what God has in store 4 me and my future Mrs. My perfect match might already be a mother or I could get caught out there with a premarital seed of my own (condoms are not 100 %) but only time will tell.
In a perfect world, sex wouldn’t require a thin layer of rubber between partners. It would be a natural act between a man and woman in love with the sole purpose of procreating. Of course, a child wouldn’t come from each encounter, but if a life were spawned from your physical union it would be a welcomed blessing. There also wouldn’t be concern for any venereal diseases because all couples would be monogamous. Well, this isn’t a “perfect” world and the above rarely happens. Humans are one of the few species that fornicate 4 recreation, which means baby-making is the last thing on the average person’s mind when they’re bumpin’ and grindin’.
Let’s be completely real here; how many people reading this right now would actually want 2 have a child by every single person they’ve ever slept with? Not many. He/she might be great in bed or extremely sexy, but lacking some key qualities you’d expect from a lifelong partner and co-parent. Chances are there’s a very short list of viable candidates for Father/Mother of the Year in anyone’s black book. So the question is why have unprotected sex with someone U would never want to have a child with? So what she’s on the pill. U can still catch an STD/STI. Yeah, right, the condom doesn’t fit. Stop lying to yourself, buddy. I’m sure it probably does feel better raw, but I’m not curious enough to test that theory without some paperwork, blood work and a ring on both our fingers.
Protection isn’t perfect but it’s a smart start.
Now, I won’t even lie and say I never-ever-ever dipped my Chick-O-Stick in the honey jar 4 a few seconds/strokes just to “see what it feels like,” but that was in my dumb days. My thinking was usually either, “Oh, she’s on the pill” or “One or two quick strokes won’t hurt.” Even then, though, the thought of 1 of my little soldiers getting past enemy lines scared me shitless and I quickly ceased and desisted any further progress without my protective helmet firmly in place. After 1 particularly scary “incident,” I left that game of Russian roulette completely alone. Only a fool repeats the same mistake twice, so it’s a condom 4 me 100 % of the time committed relationship or not.
Truth be told, I probably wear a condom even after I’m married. It’s not that I think my future wife might cheat or vice versa, but I don’t want to have sex raw until I’m ready 2 have kids. It might sound weird to some, but I’d like to build a solid foundation 4 my marriage first b4 becoming a parent. Adding on titles of mommy and daddy 2 soon can just make that transition even harder. That’s not to say if my wife got pregnant earlier than we planned I’d be upset or think my marriage was doomed 4 failure, it’s just that I’d like to have a year or 2 enjoying the honeymoon stage 1st. That’s my plan, but who knows what God has in store 4 me and my future Mrs. My perfect match might already be a mother or I could get caught out there with a premarital seed of my own (condoms are not 100 %) but only time will tell.
In a perfect world, sex wouldn’t require a thin layer of rubber between partners. It would be a natural act between a man and woman in love with the sole purpose of procreating. Of course, a child wouldn’t come from each encounter, but if a life were spawned from your physical union it would be a welcomed blessing. There also wouldn’t be concern for any venereal diseases because all couples would be monogamous. Well, this isn’t a “perfect” world and the above rarely happens. Humans are one of the few species that fornicate 4 recreation, which means baby-making is the last thing on the average person’s mind when they’re bumpin’ and grindin’.
Let’s be completely real here; how many people reading this right now would actually want 2 have a child by every single person they’ve ever slept with? Not many. He/she might be great in bed or extremely sexy, but lacking some key qualities you’d expect from a lifelong partner and co-parent. Chances are there’s a very short list of viable candidates for Father/Mother of the Year in anyone’s black book. So the question is why have unprotected sex with someone U would never want to have a child with? So what she’s on the pill. U can still catch an STD/STI. Yeah, right, the condom doesn’t fit. Stop lying to yourself, buddy. I’m sure it probably does feel better raw, but I’m not curious enough to test that theory without some paperwork, blood work and a ring on both our fingers.
Protection isn’t perfect but it’s a smart start.
"..no piece of ass is worth my life.." ha classic! i love that line..i totally agree with everything stated here though & its nice to see sum1 who is actually open-minded about this..so many ppl these days dont even care..all you hear "well its 09, its 09" ..but wtf does a year have to do it with it tho? the diseases you can get along with the many consequences are still the SAME.
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